What to Do if Your Teen is Cutting

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Editor’s Note: This article was written by Dylan Broggio, LCSW, EWN therapist.

Finding out that someone you love is cutting themselves is very painful, shocking, information to hear. Being armed with information and a game plan can make all the difference in getting your loved one help.

What is cutting? Cutting is when someone purposefully injures themselves, but is not trying to committing suicide. Essentially, cutting is a way to deal with pain. Teens and young adults report they cut in order to cope with or relieve emotional pain, or to “feel something” when all they feel is numb. Marks or cuts are typically kept well hidden so that they can continue this way of coping with their emotions.

14% of teens report engaging in self injurious behavior

64% of those teens are girls. (Ross and Heath, 2002)

If you suspect your teen is cutting here are some warning signs:

  • Cut, scratch, or burn marks on arms, legs, abdomen, etc. They can be anywhere on the body, but are usually in places that can be well hidden.
  • Finding sharp objects (knives, razors, safety pins/needles, tacks, broken glass) in your child’s room or belongings.
  • Your child’s friends are cutting themselves is a reason to be concerned.
  • Your teen wears long pants or shirts consistently, even on warm days, as this conceals the evidence.
  • Often insists that she be left alone and private when upset or depressed.

Here is what you can do to help your teen:

  • Take your child to the hospital if injury is bleeding significantly or requires stitches. Otherwise a call or trip to their pediatrician is a good idea.
  • Connect with a mental health professional who is qualified and specifically trained in treating self-injury. If they are not experienced with this, they should have no problem referring you to someone who is.
  • Listen. Listen. And listen some more. As hard as it is, hear what your child has to say.
  • Let your child know you love them, and that you are there for them.
  • Participate in your child’s treatment. Often support from family and family counseling are necessary for a successful recovery.

Parents, it is important NOT to freak out. Despite how you’re feeling, try to keep your cool. Yelling, demanding they stop, will NOT help the situation. They are not doing this to make you mad, or to be spiteful. Your child is in pain and doesn’t know how to deal with it. Take a deep breath, and express to your child that you will do what it takes to get them help.

To learn more about self injurious behavior, visit WebMD’s Mental Health Teens and Teens’ Health. These books may be helpful as well: Cutting–Understanding Self-Mutilation and When Your Child Is Cutting: A Parent’s Guide to Helping Children Overcome Self-Injury.

If you are a teen who is cutting, you may have come across this article looking for help. Here are some tips for you:

1. Overcome your fear and ask for help. The adults in your life who love you want you to feel safe and you aren’t right now. Tell a parent, teacher, counselor; find an adult you can trust and be as truthful as you can.

2. Be picky about your therapist. Find a counselor you feel comfortable with so that you can be honest and frank with them. That way you can begin to identify the triggers that cause you to cut, and begin working toward solutions.

3. Allow your family to support you. They will help you get through this and they will benefit, too.

4. Know that there is treatment out there that can help. You may be skeptical, but give it a try, you might be surprised!

Remember, treatment is very successful. Your teen will find better ways to deal with emotional pain and your family will benefit, too. So teens, speak up, let an adult you can trust know, so they can help you begin to find relief and feel better. And parents, with your love and support, you can be a great instrument in your child’s recovery.

Are you a parent with experience that you can share? Do you have any questions? Comments? Please let us hear from you.

Dylan Broggio, LCSW is a psychotherapist with Explore What’s Next. She specializes in work with adolescents, adults, couples and families. To schedule a free consultation with Dylan call 734.474.6987 or email at dylan@explorewhatsnext.com.


  • Maureen

    My daughters are 6 and 10, and these are the kinds of things that scare me silly when I think about the fast-approaching teen years. It’s hard to believe that some parents would actually yell at their child for cutting, or demand that they stop. It makes me feel better as a mom (I am often my worst critic), since I know I’d never do those things. Freak out — yes. Get to a therapist as quick as possible — yes. Yell and demand — never.

    • Anonymous

      Well, I recently had cut myself . Im living a very rough year n life does not seems to be improving. But let me mention that I have no interest In continuing this habit even though I found it painless. But the thing that bothers me is that my mom completely lost her temper when she learned of the matter. She still yells at me n even calls me names when somehow the topic jumps in. Not even once did she say that I am here for you n that promise me you wont do it again. I keep apologizing but she yells instead. I feel even more frustrated by the fact that she absolutely failed in consoling me or comforting me

  • Dylan

    Hi Maureen,
    It sure sounds like you are a step ahead- thinking about these things before the teen years even hit! It’s great preparation to know a bit about these topics that can scare parents silly (well put :), so we can be prepared IF it ever does happen. The responses that surprised you, I think come from sheer shock and fear parents feel when they see cuts on thier childs arms. Comments teens hear a lot from startled parents include, “Why on earth would you do that to yourself?” or “What is wrong with you”, or simply “you just can’t be doing that to yourself!”. Cutting is a very difficult behavior to understand, combine that with fear, and sometimes we don’t respond in the most helpful way. Hopefully this article will offer a little understanding and guidance for parents out there. Thanks for the feedback!

  • Linda Sibley

    I recently found out my daughter was cutting and I did yell because it was my first reaction to a scary situation. You do not know how you will react until it happens and you believe in your heart and soul that you have loved your children with all your heart, and then one day the shock of a life time. There is no way to prepare yourself for the teen years. Don’t kid yourself thinking there is.

    • Dylan

      Hi Linda,
      So sorry for the delay in response, I was off becoming a parent myself. I certainly do appreciate your comments, even more now as a parent. Yes, I agree, you can never know your response to such a scary and shocking reality as finding out your child has been cutting. Despite what may come out of our mouths initially (goodness knows what will come out of my mouth! ;), the most important thing is to openly and lovingly (though scared silly) move into action- talking to your child and getting them the help they need. That comes from a place of love and caring, which is exactly what our kids need in this moment of crisis.

  • These are really helpful, thank you! It is best to know the signs that our teens are indeed experiencing this kind of self-infliction. I agree that our support and understanding as parents are important to help our troubled teens cope with the hurt that they’re feeling. We shouldn’t wait until it’s too late for our children, because the worst thing that could happen is for a simple cutting to end up in suicide.

    • Dylan

      Hi Lina,
      Yes, I couldn’t agree with you more regarding us parents knowing the warning signs. If we can pick up the clues and intervene before it gets out of hand, everyone wins! And regardless of how badly our teens SAY they don’t want us around, they desperatly do what our support and understanding :) Thanks for the feedback!

  • Paige

    Most parents yell at teens when they cut it does not help at all…Im 14 years old and i cut ive cut since i was in 4th grade it is realii hard to stop but its even harder when your parents yell at you for it…so if you find out your son or daughter cuts dont yell take them to a doctor to tlk about depression…but I may not be a lot of help im still struggling trying to stop…

    • Hi Paige,
      Thanks so much for your comment. I think it’s SOOO helpful for parents to hear that directly from a younger person who is going through it. Are you linked with a therapist/doctor? If not let me know, I’d be happy to help you find someone in your area. Truly,Dylan

  • Tiana

    My name is Tiana im 16 And Ive cut a couple of times, at first it was scraping my arm up with an earring because they go away in like 2 days but then when things got worse I progressed to a knife and Finally i used a razor blade. I had 14 cuts on my arm and even tho it was september i started wearing long sleeves, my parents shouldve known since i dont even wear long sleeves in the winter but they didnt. Finally on homecoming night they were almost gone but my mom saw them. When she asked me why I said because and when she kept asking i told her that she might as well give up Cuz i wasnt goin to tell her (the reason was actually my parents). She told me if i did it again she would take my phone away, Thats it just take it away. It wont help if u just punish your child, cuz they already feel pain and ur just Bounding them to the place they do it at. She also said she would make me come to and from skl and no where else. If she did that i wouldve cut worse, Often times if ur child is cutting they need you to Care but they also usually need more time away from home as well, You should give them more freedom. My mom never brought it up again But my friends kept talking to me about it and eventually i quit, but not for long. Ive started up again bc i feel its the only thing i can control bc my parents are strict and i dont get to go and do many things, Teens need to know that u care and that there is help, but they also should have a life of their own before it reduces to cutting. With my friends i know i can stop. But it is like an addiction and you become addicted to the way it feels, kind of like ur own high (tho ive never been high, for the record) And thats something parents need to understand as well.

  • Hi Tiana,
    Thank you so much for sharing your experience, it will definitely help a lot of parents and teens to hear your story. I always encourage my teens to tell their parents directly when they need help. If parents know, they can do something to help. Often times this is Listening, Caring, and getting a professional involved. You should not be in this alone. Parents don’t always know the right way to respond, but a little guiding can do the trick. Since it sounds like you’ve started cutting again, I do want to check in with you and offer my therapeutic services or at the very least a referal to someone you can talk to. Please feel free to call me, and or have your folks call at 734.474.6987 or you can email me at dylan.broggio@gmail.com. Again, thanks for sharing. I hope to hear from you soon. Dylan

  • Anonymous

    Hey, i am 17 and i cut. I looked this up because a teacher at my school found out and i am being forced to tell my parents. honestly, i see why cutting is an issue, but i don’t think that parents should ALWAYS have to be quite so involved.

    I know my parents love me, but i also know them. And to have to talk to my mother about this is probably the worst thing for my situation. As long as the parent offers support by getting the kid an appointment and just telling the kid the times of it rather than forcing them to talk to them, i think it should be okay.

    i love my parents but i am a very private person and having to talk to them is just another among the most emotionally scarring things in my life.

  • Anonymous

    My daughter recently came to me to tell me that she was cutting and wanted to get help. As parents we are doing everything that we can to help her, she is in therapy and taking medication. It has been very up and down and since she has told us she has had to go to hospital several times and stayed the night a few times, one of those was for a suicide attempt, she was then put in a psychiatric adolescent hospital for a week. She is under 24 hour care at home and we are not allowing her to cut herself. Due to this she is becoming more suicidal, but it is extremely difficult for my husband and myself to allow her to cut herself not to mention her other siblings. I do not know what to do. We are trying to do the right thing but I realize it seems to be making her worse, because she cannot cope with her emotional pain. I feel devastated and torn between the fear of letting her cut and the fear of not letting her cut. She is also trying to purge her food. We support her 100 percent and try to be caring, kind and supportive at all times in her recovery. I find it difficult to just give her razor back and allow her to do it. I suspect that she may cut her self eventually or even worse try to commit suicide again, but as I said she has 24 hour care. I know on one hand that seems like alot for her to handle being under constant care, but when you feel like your child is at risk of self harm or even worse death, what can you do. I am dying inside and I just want my daughter to be better. Do you think that it is the write thing to do to allow her to cut herself?

    • Dylan

      Thank you for sharing your struggle. Without knowing more about your daughter or the situation, I am not able to make a judgement on your question. However, I will say that if you are not feeling comfortable with the current treatment recommendations, talk to her doctors about it,and even get a second or third opinion. Advocate for what you feel is right (or what your gut instinct is telling you isn’t right). Thanks again for sharing, Dylan

  • Elizabeth Perdomo

    Hello my name is Elizabeth Perdomo and I just found out my 14year old daughter cut herself. I am devastated and hurt. I blame myself, maybe I have not been a good mother, I just do not know. I am hurting inside so bad, I am confused and torn inside. I will be contacting her pediatrician tomorrow to schedule an appointment for her. I am praying that God will guide us and give me the strength to help her. I love both my children with all my heart and would do anything to help them. I never thought I would be in this situation, so really no one can say how they will react. We all have different ways of coping, some yell, some talk and some stay silent. I do not believe it makes you any less of a parent.

    • Dylan

      I know how painful this is as a parent. You are doing the best thing possible for your daughter by contacting her primary doctor and moving forward with seeking treatment. I completely agree, sometimes we yell, cry, or just plain say/do the wrong thing… it does NOT make us any less of parents and it in NO WAY touches how much we love our children.

  • Denise

    i am a mom of a 17 year old girl who i suspect is cutting. she has denied it. she has other issues such as hair pulling and nail biting. she is on antidepressant, but doesn’t want to be on it and doesn’t want to go to traditional therapy. PLEASE HELP. She is off to college in 6 weeks and i don’t know what to do to help. thank you.

    • Dylan

      Hi Denise,

      Thanks for writing. I am sorry to hear of your situation. Getting her primary care doctor involved is a good idea. They can treat and refer you to specialists. If you suspect any danger to herself or others, a psychiatric eval would be warranted. Sharing your concerns with her primary doctor would be a good place to start though.

  • Unknown

    I used to be a cutter i stated when i was 12 im now going into 15 ! I lived about 2 years in and out of pshyciartic hospitals ive done and seen ALot what i recommend is to call the police ambulance !!! Immediatley if you c him/her cutting …. If there not take them to a specialist .. Or get them therapy … Behind phsyciatric dissorders there can be so much!!

    • Dylan Broggio

      Thank you so much for sharing. It’s great for other teens to read “I used to be a cutter”. Congrats on overcoming it! Thanks for sharing your helpful advice. Dylan

  • Emily

    I’m 16 years old and have been struggling with cutting on and off since 7th grade. Recently I have started again.. And my mom found out by seeing some words I had cut on my leg. She immediately started yelling at me.. and I’m now grounded. She kept going on and on about how I was “only doing it to punish her,” and “I wanted her to see it,” and i “deliberately disobeyed her.” I had a friend over that didn’t know, and she completely embarrassed me, and cussed at me right in front of her. I feel so hurt that she would think the right thing to do is to punish your child because she’s cutting. It obviously goes much deeper than her being rebellious or disobedient. And the fact that she hasn’t even tried to talk to me about it as someone who cares not as just a position of authority.
    I’ve tried to talk to her about things for a really long time, but I’ve always been a little weird. For example I’m regularly called psycho and demented. I’ve always been a little dark. And it freaks my mom out, and she doesn’t like to talk about it. So we don’t communicate well. Eventually I just stopped trying to talk to her about those things because I was tired of being shut down, or sent off to therapy. I really hate therapy, because I just want to talk to my mom, and for her to listen to me. I understand my mom has a level of authority but there also should be
    a type of friendship connection rather than someone just being around to tell you what to do.
    I’ve been trying to tell her how she should never ever punish or yell at someone who is cutting. It’s a type of addiction. And with any other type of addiction you don’t confront them about such a painful subject by yelling and screaming, you sit them down and talk to them about it calmly and let them know you’re there to listen, or help them in any way they need it.

  • Emily

    Hi, my name is Emily and I’ve started cutting myself. I’m 12 and I’ve told my best friend and he’s freaked out. I don’t want any therapy. My dad was recently arested for consealing child porn. We had to move and I have to start at a new school. I hate talking about my feelings and even when I do to my mom she starts yelling. I don’t see why people freak out. It’s not like I’ve tried to comitt suicide or anything but my family is falling apart and I always have to be in the middle of it.

  • Deseree

    Hey, my name is Deseree and im 16 years old i’ve been cutting since the 6th grade i was only 11 when i started. To this day I still continue to cut i honestly don’t know what the big deal is, I know most parents think their kids do it for attention. Their not trust me. Every wrong thing I do my parents think i’m doing to get attention even though they don’t know I cut I sill wish I could talk to them about it. Parents don’t realize that even thought we cut to feel. Some times it doesn’t help. I know over the years I have actually become used to the pain, and tryed resorting to other methods of coping some even worse. Parents just need to understand that all you need to do is listen. Just listen to your kid, even if they don’t wan to talk about it all you have to do is be there. I feel if my parents just payed atention enough to me I would atleast try and talk to them about it.

  • Sherry

    My daughter is 14 years old and I find that she has been cutting. She has been recently diagnosed with ADHD and clinically depressed and now the cutting. She is on medication. I dont see that it has helped much. I know she is tryin to get someone to care. She knows I love her and care so much for her. I feel she wants her friends to care as she doesnt keep friends for too long it seems due to her ADHD sometimes. I dont know how to talk to her with out getting her mad. She is starting to see a counselor who I also will be seeing separatly. I am hoping and praying .

  • Ryan

    I just found a letter in my daughters room about her cutting once a week me and my wife had no clue how do u think we should bring this up without making her want to just run to her room and cut again???

  • Angela

    I am concerned that my adult son may be cutting again, he is 22 but as far as I knew he had not cut since he was 15 (that was when we discovered it). He has bipolar disorder, OCD and social anxiety, he lives with me and rarely leaves the house.

    Today he came out of his room without his shirt on and before he could get it on I noticed 4 cuts on his upper arm (in the same area he used to cut on) I asked him what happened and he just shrugged and said he didn’t know.

    My biggest concern at this point, and my question is, he’s an adult so what can I do?

  • Brenna

    I have recently discovered that my younger sister of 14 years old has been cutting herself. Our family is in and shock, she showed absolutely no signs of this at all and as the person she is closest to, I need to talk to her about. Only problem is I am 16 myself, and have no clue with how to address the issue, and get her to open up to me. Any advice?

  • Matthew

    Hi, I’m 14 and I have problems with Cutting and Burning, I honestly have no Idea why. I have great friends, though they cut sometimes, I’ve tried not to let it get to me. I also have a great, loving family and they try to keep me happy and feeling loved. They do a great job. Anyways, I’ve tried to talk to my father about it, He told me if I did it again that he would “Give me the pain I want.” I absolutely can NOT tell my mother, she’s been through enough Sadness and I don’t want to hurt her further. I really need some advice. Please.

    • Fran

      Matthew, do not be afraid to tell your mum not matter how much she has been through she will find the strength to help you, that’s what we as mothers do. I have been through losing a son to suicide and had my heart broken but that will never stop me from wanting to help my children or someone else’s children. You are all so special, life is way to short find the strength to tell someone and get help and be happy, take care xx

  • Bett

    I saw today that my 11y old has scratched the top of her hand and forearm with a piece of glass two days ago. She said it was the first time. She has been under some stress lately. I’m glad she admitted to it, I haven’t had the opportunity to sit privately and talk to her yet. I’m not sure what to do except to talk with her about it. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

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  • Stacy

    My 12 yr old daughter has a terrible time showing any emotion except for anger. She takes a lot of it out on her 10 yr old brother especially if she’s actually mad at me. She is an honor student in GATE and she plays softball. On the outside, you wouldn’t even know she has a problem — except I know she does. My education in psychology told me to follow me instincts and so I examined her ipod while she was at school. I knew she was depressed but I was not prepared for what I found. She had pictures of her cuts on both her arm and her thigh. Although I said “no” to facebook, she has instagram where she has posted photos of herself that show her cuts. There was a boy she had a pic of and she was communicating with that was way too old for her and asking her “if she was still a virgin.” She also wrote that this other boy from school she liked only liked her for her “boobs.” She has no idea that I know all this but I have told her that I know she’s depressed and so I have made an appointment with a therapist. I feel like I’m a bad parent and yet I know she has had a great childhood. If anything, I have erred on the side of being too nice. My parents were abusive so I never spanked her and I have tried to let her stay young and be a kid. Now that she’s wanting more freedoms, I expect her to take on more responsibilities like doing some chores around our house. This has become a fight everytime she is asked to help out. She hides in her bedroom and text, cut, etc… My question is should I confront her about what I know or let the professionals handle it? I guess I don’t like the way I found out (by snooping) so I don’t want her to know that I don’t respect her privacy. Afterall, she is not forthcoming with her feelings and as the mom I need to know these things. I don’t want her to get more secretive because she doesn’t trust me not to snoop. Thank you, in advance, for any and all help you can provide.

  • Elizabeth

    I am the Mother of a 15 year old girl who is a cutter. It began when she was 10 as scratches and eraser burns. It has progressed to over 127 cuts (her last cutting session) with a razor blade on one arm. She is scarred on both arms, both legs, and her torso. For five years I have medicated, therapy, screamed, punished, cried, hospitalized, talked, loved, hugged, and yes…even tried to ignore it. I have learned that no matter what I do, I cannot stop it. I cannot change it. It may seem awful for some of you to hear, but the sight of it no longer shocks me. I have had to (with great difficulty) remove the guilt and blame I held toward myself and let it go. I have had to come to terms with how she is. She is the only one who can stop it. Therefore, I have stopped trying. It was not because I no longer cared, it was because I blamed myself and felt like a failure myself when she cut again. I am not a failure as a parent or as a person. I have no control over the situation and I refuse to let it have control over me. I am still her Mother. I am not one of her friends (which by the way, cut as well). She still has to follow the rules, she still loses rights to the fun things, she still gets grounded, and has lost a lot of freedoms and privacy due to her actions. But the most important thing she has lost is my trust. She is not allowed to be alone. She is not allowed to stay at friends. I cannot trust that the adults there know the gravity of her mental state. But we go on. I go on. Unfortunately I am severely in debt with medical bills and still no closer to an answer or diagnosis. This last round, when she was discharged from the “Wellness Facility” instead of going to shop for her first car…I took her to look at caskets and began pre-planning a funeral which I am sure is imminent unless by some miracle she “Grows out of it” as many have said. Harsh? Maybe. But for me, its a real possiblity that I have had to accept. What else do you do when nothing has worked? You let go….and hope for the best and prepare for the worst. If you don’t, as a Mother you can go crazy trying to change something that you have no control over.

  • I found an article 4pgs on how I can stop cutting I havent seen any cuts on her.Very concerned she spend alot of time in her room and at times is very moody.

  • khrystal

    Im 16 years old and i cut. I started cutting when i was 14. My mom has saw some of my cuts but i blames it on my rabbit and i know she doesn’t believe me. I know i need to tell her about my depression and self harm but i dont know how…

  • My son is a newly turned 17 and after moving to his ‘deadbeat’ dad’s a few months ago, after not wanting to follow any rules regarding computer use..he began to pull away from all motherly influences, due to peer pressure undermining by ‘dad.’

    After being made fun of for not needing to have a a girlfriend, he acquired his first – a cutter, shut-in and living in a foster home for older kids; whom was a cutter, of a few months. She was 18.

    After he let go of her.. for i’d responded to what she shared on skype to me about her many diagnosis and medications, to him – he met another .. cutter – this time a bit younger – his age, and she is from a ‘good home’ with parents she has deemed ” do not love her.’

    I have not been permitted to meet either of these unhappy and self-admittedly depressed girls. Yet, both have been in touch we me – reaching out .. and sharing, on Facebook!

    My son refuses to have me meet his now – girlfriend.

    I see a pattern here .. of course.

    Almost always, i blame myself .. that i must be somehow responsible for his supposedly unwitting selection ..for he now refuses to tell me where he lives, even.

    I have shown complete compassion to both girls, for they could be my own daughters, let alone another’s beloved’s. I do not want to be a hero. All i want is for me son to be aware and see …

    I wonder how depressed my son must be to attract this or/and what he doing to himself, other than ‘killing’ online for hours and more .. online, at a time – rather than deal with his emotions as he once did .. with painting and journaling – until a rabid rash of online terrorism took over our lives and pretty much broke our devoted mom/son bond .. apart.

    I met a therapist who shared that every girl she has ever worked with .. who was cutting – had or was being sexually abused – usually by their own father – on this quiet Island where we were both living, on the west coast of B.C.

    Yet, i believe it must go deeper .. than that. Pardon the pun.
    Meaning, i do not feel that this is the only reason for such behaviour. And, hopefully not the primary ..

    As a single mom, i must confess my son began stealing from me, at age 7 and it developed into an almost compulsive disorder, as more stressor’s accumulated and he pulled away from even admitting that there was an issue to deal with.

    At one time, he told a few trusted authority figures . with me alongside that he had stolen from me, ” quite a few times, ” to put it mildly. No one ‘took the ball,’ from there and the beautiful honesty that was shared .. was tossed right out the window.

    Now, my son is almost completely alienated from me. Most of the time, it seems I cry .. and am not that effective at communicating with him – due to extreme loneliness of the heart – of mine- and absolute concern – for him.

    Whew, all of this before bed – thanks for allowing me to share – it is now 6 am and i will sleep for awhile.

    With highest regards for your support in aiding so many with what has become a pandemic pandemonia ( new word .. ),

    Katherine – a brave heart who would rather her son shun her, than sit in silence …and do nothing

  • Carolin

    My name is Carolin, I’m 13 and I cut.
    A few months ago I decided to tell my teacher about my problems. At first I was really scared because I thought she wouldn’t take me serious and she would hate me If I told her. But when I talked to her she was really nice and she is really trying to help me. We still often sit together and talk about it and I’m really getting better. I never regret that I told her about it. I think telling a teacher can be a really good way, especially if someone has problems at school/with other students.

    • Dylan Broggio, LCSWR


      Thank you so much for sharing your experience, I am sure your post will help a lot of kids afraid to tell someone find the courage to reach out. I am so glad that you have found someone you can trust to talk to about what you’re going through. Since you found such good support with your teacher, I encourage you to reach out also to a counselor and your parents to address the issue with a professional who can give you great ways to cope with and overcome it. Again, thanks for sharing and keep being brave and reaching out :)


  • Audrey

    I’m so lost right now. I suspect my daughter is cutting. She struggles with anexity and since starting high school has become depressed and withdrawn. I have taken her to a therapist but she refuses to talk. I finally read her journal and it is full of pages about her cutting. I tried to talk to her about her sadness and I ask if she ever thought of hurting herself. She does not communicate well and just gets angry. She is my only child and truly the love of my life. I’m beyond sick with worry. I called the therapist she went to and she suggested I take her to the hospital. She’s so shy I’m afraid that would push ger further away from us. No cuts on arms or legs because I made her show me. but I think if she is doing it, It must be her thighs. I just don’t know. My girl hates pain so bad it’s hard to imagine she would do this. I want to help her but I feel like I don’t know the next correct step to take.

  • b.

    My daughter just told me last night that she has been cutting. she showed me and it is very minor cuts and not many.. She says that shes only done it a couple of times in the last year.. This year her dad and I got divorced. he older brother left home .. she has had a rough year. she says that kids at school send her social media messages telling her to kill hersef. she doenst know who they are because it is fake accounts. she says that she blocks them. She talked to me a little bit last night, but doesnt wanna open up completely yet. Says she refuses to go to therapy. She promised that she didnt have any desire to do it again, but Im not so sure since I know that most ppl cant control it that easy.. Should i be worried and how can i help her.. Please use the emai I have attached to reply, as I just stumbled across this article.

  • Harley

    My parents called the cops on me for cutting. Personally, I don’t think this was the right course of action. It’s more important to talk with your children and have them explain to you what’s going to make them feel better. Don’t just automatically inform the police or send them to a mental hospital. For some people this might be a good option but for others your risk making their situation worse. Communication is the best option in this situation. Let them tell you what’ll help in this situation. Offer them a social worker or some sort of therapist to get evaluated. What I’m trying to say is, don’t call the freaking cops on your kid unless you think their life is in jeopardy at that very moment. You might end up freaking them out by calling the cops on them.


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