My Blog Was Hacked Part Three

This is a test. Fingers are crossed that this time all comes out squeaky clean.

Another bouquet of quotes just for the hell of it. Enjoy!

“If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.” ~Anonymous

“If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. Then quit. There’s no point in being a damn fool about it.” ~W. C. Fields

“If at first you don’t succeed, do it like your mother told you.” ~Author Unknown

If at first you don’t succeed, you’re running about average. ~M.H. Alderson

My Blog Was Hacked Part Two!

The hacking went deeper than we thought. SmackSmog, my Internet ninjas, thought they had it and then, like a hydra, the hack came back. After much sweat and blood, (imagine a really intense episode of trauma surgery on ER) I am told it is time to test the system.

To test the system and have a little fun at the same time, I offer you these quotes about computers:

“Anyone who has lost track of time when using a computer knows the propensity to dream, the urge to make dreams come true and the tendency to miss lunch.” ~Tim Berners-Lee

“The computer is a moron” ~Peter F. Drucker

“Computers are incredibly fast, accurate and stupid. Humans are slow, inaccurate and brilliant. Together they are powerful beyond imagination.” ~Albert Einstein

“My favorite thing about the Internet is that you get to go into the private world of real creeps without having to smell them.” ~Penn Jillett

3 Things I Learned When My Blog Got Hacked!

Dear subscribers and readers of the Explore What’s Next blog:

I am so sorry!

For weeks I’ve been trying to figure out why a rogue link to some lame online office services was appearing on EWN subscribers’ email notifications. Yesterday the hackers upgraded from an innocent (but still unwanted) link to full-on nasty-scam in the form of advertisements for pharmaceutical sexual enhancers. ARG!

It was as if they were saying, “Well, they didn’t chuck us out for the little hack so that must mean we can go all out now!”

Lessons learned:

1. Do not hesitate to kick anyone out of your life who is not treating you nicely. Don’t wait for them to go away on their own or for them to change just because they said they would (“I promise”). No. Kick the jerk out first, ask questions later. Firmly say, “Oh, no you don’t! Straighten up and treat me with respect or get out!”

2. Be grateful for your support system. When it comes to creating and maintaining a good website/blog it takes a village. The first notifications that something was way off came from three intrepid friends/readers. All reported a variation on “You’ve got a serious problem here!” Once alarmed, I immediately sent up the Bat Signal! Or in my case the SmackSmog Signal. The SmackSmog team jumped all over the interlopers and drove the bad guys out within hours! Thank you, thank you, thank all of you!!! I heart my Internet village. XO!

3. Take passwords seriously. Passwords are a pain in the ass but it may be the only thing standing between you and the spineless pig hacker in pjs, sitting in his mom’s basement sucking down Mountain Dews and chowing on Cheetos. Ew! In my case, one way the hackers may have gotten in was because I was lazy and didn’t assign a super strong password where I should have. Those days are over.

As God is my witness, I will never choose a cheesy password again!

It is my hope that you may learn from this little episode as I have. Please continue to enjoy the Explore What’s Next blog knowing we will do all in our power to keep it informative, helpful and classy.

With much affection,

Dr. Aletta


Remember the Basics! Sleep!


Editor’s Note: Nicole reminds us that we often forget about basic human needs such as proper sleep, nutrition and exercise. Deficits in these areas can have significant repercussions on our mind and body.

Sometimes I feel like there is not enough time in a day. I will stretch my bed-time to accommodate all of the projects that I want to finish. At the end of the day I am exhausted and feel accomplished but may be only left with 4 or 5 hours of sleep.

With all of the demands of this fast-paced, driven society I feel compelled to produce. The consequence however is less productivity, more anxiety and more body aches. With only 5 hours of sleep and over-stretching my mind and body’s capabilities every day, I cannot possibly be as productive a person as I think I am.

The next day I am tired. As weeks go by I might have more sick days because my immune system is compromised and overall I have more anxiety due to frustration from my decreased stress tolerance. These can all be relieved by maintaining healthy sleep habits.

The most powerful sleep habit that I have adopted has been to fall asleep and wake at the same time every day, yes even on weekends! As a result, I have been clearer headed, focused and energized. For me that was well worth waking up at 8am on Saturday mornings! If your interested in reenergizing and healthy sleep tips click here!

Relax! We are Awesome Just the Way We Are!

That’s the message for today. I want to have a day that is guilt-free, agitation-free, restless-free and anger-free. If I have trouble with any of those I will stop whatever it is I’m doing and sit or lie down and focus on ONE THING  like maybe how awesome I am just because I’m trying! And Goddamn it, trying does count! I don’t care what Yoda says.

Ok, that sounded sort of pathetic but I think a lot of you know what I’m talking about.

I am going to the barn to see my horse because she makes me happy. She recharges my battery. The smell of the barn, the hay, the tack, the horsey smells, the sound of their nickering and chewing, stomping and blowing. If I can allow myself this pleasure for just an hour instead of feeling like I really should be doing something else, like writing a more meaningful article here on the blog that will change your life, then maybe, just maybe, I can do a little of that tomorrow. But that’s fortune telling.

For today: More simple relaxing things I can do…

Read a book just for fun!

Pet my dog because he is so soft.

Ride my new stationary bike while watching Tabitha Takes Over. Something about exercises I can do while sitting tickles the hell out of me.

Take a large garbage bag, go through the house and throw out stuff that so obviously needs to go there is no “can this be useful later?” argument. Yes, I find this relaxing!

Pretend I’m Nigella Lawson and experiment with a new recipe for dinner. I might have to speak with a British accent as I clean the leeks!

What will you do today just for fun or just to relax or just to recharge the YOU ARE AWESOME  neon sign in your spirit today?

Photo courtesy of MarcelGermain via Flickr

Happiness vs Pleasure

 Editor’s Note: This article was contributed by Dylan Broggio, LCSW, EWN therapist.

Courtesy of jellywatson via Flickr

In revisiting a favorite book of mine, “The Art of Happiness: A Handbook for Living” , I am rediscovering  a theme that is interwoven in so many aspects of our lives… the idea of pleasure versus happiness.

The Dalai Lama says our main purpose in life is to seek happiness.  Though pleasure and happiness are clearly separate, it appears we can get these two confused from time to time. The idea of pleasure in our lives is fairly easy to conjure up;  the embrace of a loved one, a sunny Saturday afternoon, a beach vacation, a bowl of ice cream, the thrill of buying a new car or house, sex, getting a promotion!  The idea of happiness in our lives… a little more complicated… Love, affection, closeness, compassion, and gratitude.

Pleasure comes from external stimuli, things outside of us, that are short lived. The Dalai Lama states, “Happiness that depends mainly on physical pleasure is unstable, one day it’s there, the next day it may not be”.  Whereas true happiness comes from an internal source, and it remains constant despite the ups and downs of daily life.

Most of us do not always choose what is “good” for us- that is, what leads us toward happiness. Instead we decide to indulge in those short lived pleasures of life, expecting long term happiness.

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