Bibliotherapy-Enhancing the Therapy Hour



The therapy hour can go by very quickly.  The good work my clients and I do in session carries into the time between visits with “homework” we design together and “bibliotherapy.”  There are so many great books out there written by people who are qualified experts in their fields, it’s like having the best and brightest in consultation with us.  None are required reading, only really pushy suggestions.  Why not take the time to go to a book store with a cafe (whoever invented the bookstore cum cafe idea deserves the Noble Prize!) grab a handful of whatever speaks to you (books, not cookies) sit, sip and browse.  Below are just a sampling of favorites.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a well-studied talking therapy known to be an effective non-medication treatment for mood problems and low self-esteem.  When my clients are struggling with any of these issues I often suggest these books to help them understand the underlying theory that is a big part of how I help them.  The more my clients know what I know, the better. In  Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Dr. David Burns outlines the fundamentals of CBT, what it is and how to apply it to your situation.  His style can be on the academic side which many people prefer but it’s not for everyone.  He certainly does not talk down to you.  Consider his books a reference, not something to necessarily read cover to cover.  The Feeling Good Handbook is more hands on with exercises that help illustrate how your particular thoughts can influence how you feel.  Some find Dr. Mathew McKay’s  workbook Thoughts & Feelings: Taking Control of Your Moods and Your Life an easier read.  Your choice of book is purely a personal preference.  It’s all good.

On Health and Fitness for Our Best 50′s+



On Health and Fitness. These are not ‘diet’ books.  These are ‘nuture’ books.  I don’t want to be seventeen again.  However I do
want to be the heathiest, fittest and strongest fifty-something woman I can be.

When I was experiencing hormonal symptoms that confused and even scared me I went in search of a text to help sort out the myth from fact.  Hidden among the dictionary sized medically oriented tomes and cutesy ‘you can be sexy at fifty’ schlock I found The Only Menopause Guide You’ll Need.   A little book on the big change! It is aptly titled.

A Good Clean Fight



Speaking of saying no, I've found in my work with couples that some of us lack the most basic skills in how to have a good argument.  Over the years I've come up with four rules of engagement.  Not in order of importance, they are:

  • Never yell or use foul language.
  • Never bring others into the argument.
  • Never bring up the past.
  • Allow time out.

Looks simple and common sense-ish right?   It's amazing how it's the simple stuff that can trip us up.   For more details on how to change "Pass the f*&^ing salt!" to "Please pass the salt," there is no better reference than Susan Heilter, author of The Power of Two. 

The Power of Two: Secrets of a Strong & Loving Marriage

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